Gay Dating in a Straight World: John Boughton’s Guide to The Gay Dating Game

Let me introduce to you, the safest & best dating app there is for men in the LGBTQIA+ community.

Welcome back ya cuties! Today on Gay Dating in a Straight World (GDSW), we’re going to stick with the theme of dating apps and talk about a very special one. It’s exclusively for gay, queer, bisexual, pansexual, asexual & trans men. It’s name? Chappy.

Chappy is very much like Tinder in that it’s based on a swiping system, so if you remember my handy-dandy rules from last month’s article, they can also apply to Chappy! Keep in mind, however, that Chappy does have some next level features that just might take care of those rules for you. On Chappy, you can set your profile to three different settings: Cute, Sexy and Cute&Sexy. Cute is you’re looking for something long-term. Sexy is you’re looking for something short-term. And Cute&Sexy is you’re not quite sure what you’re looking for, but keep your options open! They used to be set to “Mr. Right, Mr. Right Now, and Mr. Who Knows.” Which I thought that was way more clever and cute, but whatever, ignore me and go on and change your entire brand. Not my problem. But anyhow! You can set your profile to one of those and then set your swiping feed to one of those settings as well. So if you’re out on the town and you’re looking for something sexy, you can set the app to filter through only the guys looking for hook-ups. But if you’re lonely on a rainy day, you can set it to “cute” and start looking for Mr. Right! I think it’s a good feature and saves the whole trouble of the “what are you looking for” conversation. The only drawback Chappy has is that it just launched in early 2017, so it’s very new which makes it not too popular. So there’s nearly not as much traffic as Tinder. So if you’re in a rural area, it’s honestly not worth your time. But if you ever travel to a city, download it and give it a go! Plus, I find the guys are way more attractive on Chappy and a little more serious if you’re looking for a relationship.

As I mentioned before, Chappy used to have their filters set to “Mr. Right, Mr. Right Now, & Mr. Who Knows.” They changed it because the app went through a huge revamping that was intended to create a safer space for gay men to date. As we all know, other apps like Grindr and Scruff can be ruthless battlefields where for the most part, people can discriminate and say whatever they want. With Chappy’s update, they have developed a “zero tolerance” policy. That means if you discriminate or attempt to in any way, shape, or form, you are permanently banned from the app. As an example, that means saying things like “no Asians,” “no fats” or “no fems,” is strictly prohibited and will get you kicked off the app for the rest of your life. The Global Head of Brand for Chappy, Sam Dumas, said in Gay Star Business article that, “we don’t allow discriminatory language or behavior on the app. Blatant prejudice masked as preference is something we take seriously in an effort to maintain a safe, respectful community of users online. All reported cases go through a review process which can result in a permanent ban or a warning. In an effort to keep users safe and our community authentic, every Chappy user must have their face in their profile photos, which reduces catfishing and keeps communication more transparent. We also introduced screenshot warnings in order to protect people’s private conversations. As a result, we have the lowest reporting and blocking averages in the industry.” To me, that sounds pretty damn good.

Chappy is by far the safest option for any gay man out there and from my personal experience, I would completely agree with that. Every man I have talked to on the app has been kind and respectful. Quite a difference from any other app dating app I’ve tried before. I’ve never seen any kind of discriminatory language and I have not dealt with one catfisher – yet. I always have a good time when I go on Chappy and I think the app needs to be advertised more in the LGBTQIA+ community because it is the first app for men in the community that is one-hundred percent all-inclusive and zero-tolerant on discriminatory behavior. That means for my Trans friends, this app is probably your best bet in avoiding bullying or discriminating, which I know y’all go through all too much on every other dating app.

That is all I have for today! I wish you all the best and I hope you found this helpful in some capacity. Definitely give the app a try and tell your friends about it because it really is something that more people should know about. We need apps like this that cater to LGBTQIA+ men and strive to create a safe and inclusive space for all of us. Because at the end of the day, all that everyone wants to find is someone to love and that quest should not become a battlefield.

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