“Feet, what do I need you for when I have wings to fly?” – Frida Kahlo
This is for anyone who is still trying to understand what it means to be them. Even the best of us don’t even fully know.
We all present a certain self because that is what is most comfortable for us. Our presentations inform how we walk through this world and how others perceive us. Yet, as individuals, we all have the power to change the narrative of our stories, especially as artists. When I produce art as an artist, I find it a critical part of my process to seek out the truth. I strive to seek the truth in my daily life as well. However, more recently, the truth has become a blurred line because of this new identity I have embraced, “Queer.”
What Does Being Queer Really Mean?
Like many people on the LGBTQIA+ spectrum, coming into one’s identity can be a challenge. There are many questions and confusing ideas that come up about who you are and what that means. You can be judged by your own peers within the community because you’re not “gay enough,” or there is this general feeling that you must present yourself a certain way in order to “fit in.” For myself, my confusion, questions and trying to “fit in,” has led me to be problematic at times and not fully understand the PC (politically correct) way of saying things. Yet, I continue to strive towards the truth anyway. That being said, as I explore what Queer means, I am fully aware that it does not mean the same thing to the next Queer person.
The truth behind my Queer identity manifested itself on November 8th, 2016 (for those of you familiar with that date, it was a huge deal). Long story short, I’m Queer. Always have been, always will be. Unfortunately, I have only been able to express this identity through my art. Through this blog. I have yet to come out to my family and some friends because of fear of being shunned by the other communities I am part of. My lines that were so perfectly straight and clear have become these mishmash of curves and colors. Which, for many of you, you can relate. I no longer can see what I saw before. I no longer think how I thought before. And I believe that is a positive thing.
These positive blurred lines have shown me we all experience our truth differently. For Frida, she experienced her truth through her pain(tings). The rawness of her truth brought her closer to herself and to her husband. She was loved. Yet tormented. She was caged, literally and mentally, yet, she flew. If I could express my truth in any way it be like Frida— I would fly away without my feet. As an artist, as an “OUT” Queer Artist of Color, flying makes sense considering these blurred mishmashed colors that surround me.
Now, as I paint the picture in my head of how I should or should not present myself, I believe we all have the capacity to Present however the hell we want to. Therefore, if you could express your truth, how would it look? Comment below. I will add your comments, and/or anything else you want to add, to some of my next blogs. I will give some of the caged birds a place to fly.
Below are some resources I hope everyone takes advantage of. This short post serves as a resource for those who are coming into the community, who have been here for a while, or for those with friends or family members on the LGBTQIA+ spectrum. Comment below & ask questions!
10 tips on how to come out as LGBT to family and friends
10 Ways to Be an Ally & a Friend
1. Be a listener.
2. Be open-minded.
3. Be willing to talk.
4. Be inclusive and invite LGBT friends to hang out with your friends and family.
5. Don’t assume that all your friends and co-workers are straight. Someone close to you could be looking for support in their coming-out process. Not making assumptions will give them the space they need.
6. Anti-LGBT comments and jokes are harmful. Let your friends, family and co-workers know that you find them offensive.
7. Confront your own prejudices and bias, even if it is uncomfortable to do so.
8. Defend your LGBT friends against discrimination.
9. Believe that all people, regardless of gender identity and sexual orientation, should be treated with dignity and respect.
10. If you see LGBT people being misrepresented in the media contact us at glaad.org.
Goddess Kitty (she/her/hers) is a woman of color theatre artist and professional event planner. She is a spiritual being who loves to dance & give off positive vibes. Currently, Goddess Kitty is twerking her way through life as a small business owner of THREE different companies & processing rich peoples clothing for dry cleaning. If you ever need a Queer Mexican American to plan your event or organize your life, then you came to the right Goddess. Signing off with a purr, Goddess Kitty 😽